Telling someone you're asexual can be nerve-wracking, but it's important to be honest about your feelings. Here's how you can approach the conversation:
1. Choose the Right Time and Place:
- Find a private and comfortable setting. This will help you both feel relaxed and open to the conversation.
- Choose a time when you both have time to talk. Avoid bringing it up when you're rushed or stressed.
2. Be Clear and Direct:
- Use "I" statements. For example, "I'm asexual," or "I don't experience sexual attraction."
- Explain what asexuality means to you. You can use resources like the Asexual Visibility and Education Network (AVEN) website to help you explain.
- Be prepared to answer questions. People may be curious about asexuality, so be patient and understanding.
3. Focus on Your Feelings:
- Explain how you feel about the relationship. Are you happy with things as they are? Do you want to explore the relationship further?
- Be honest about your needs and boundaries. Let him know what you're comfortable with and what you're not.
4. Be Patient:
- It may take time for him to understand. Asexuality is not a commonly understood concept, so be patient with him as he learns.
- Give him space to process the information. Don't pressure him to respond immediately.
5. Remember, You're Not Alone:
- There are many resources available to help you. The AVEN website, for example, offers support and information for asexual people.
- Talk to other asexual people. Sharing your experiences with others can help you feel less alone.
Remember, you have the right to be yourself. Be honest, be kind, and be patient.
