It's normal to question the nature of your feelings, especially when you're deeply invested in a relationship. Love and attachment can feel similar, but they have distinct characteristics.
Love is a complex emotion that often involves:
- Passion: A strong desire and attraction for the other person.
- Intimacy: A deep connection and sense of closeness, both emotional and physical.
- Commitment: A conscious decision to invest in the relationship and work through challenges.
Attachment is a psychological bond that develops through repeated interaction with someone. It can be based on:
- Familiarity: Comfort and security in the presence of the other person.
- Dependency: Reliance on the other person for emotional support and validation.
- Fear of loss: Anxiety and discomfort when separated from the other person.
To determine if you love them or are attached, consider these questions:
- Do you feel a deep sense of passion and desire for them?
- Do you feel comfortable and secure in their presence?
- Do you feel a sense of emotional connection and intimacy?
- Do you rely on them for emotional support and validation?
- Do you feel anxious or uncomfortable when you're apart from them?
If you answer "yes" to the first three questions and "no" to the last two, then you are likely experiencing love. If you answer "yes" to the last two questions and are less certain about the first three, then you may be experiencing attachment.
Keep in mind that these are just general guidelines. The complexities of human emotions are unique to each individual. If you're unsure about your feelings, talking to a trusted friend or therapist can provide valuable insight.
