If you're feeling like a friend is only around when they need something from you, it's worth considering if they're truly valuing your friendship or using you. Here are some signs to watch out for:
- One-sided giving: Do you consistently give more than you receive? If your friend is constantly asking for favors, money, or help, but they rarely reciprocate, it's a red flag.
- Lack of genuine interest: When you talk, do they actually listen or are they just waiting for their turn to speak? Do they remember important details about your life, or do they seem more interested in their own stories?
- Only contacting you when they need something: Does your friend only reach out when they want something, and then disappear until they need you again?
- Ignoring your needs: If you're struggling or need support, does your friend offer help or are they dismissive?
- Making you feel bad for saying no: Do you feel pressured or guilty for setting boundaries?
It's important to remember that everyone needs help sometimes, and occasionally asking for favors doesn't automatically mean someone is using you. However, if these behaviors are consistent and you feel consistently taken advantage of, it's time to re-evaluate the friendship.
