It's important to remember that disabled people are individuals with unique experiences and perspectives, just like anyone else. Asking insensitive or intrusive questions can be hurtful and disrespectful. Here's a list of questions you should avoid:
Questions About Their Disability
- "What happened to you?" This question can be insensitive, especially if the disability is visible. It's best to avoid focusing on the cause of the disability and instead treat the individual as a whole person.
- "How did you get that?" Similar to the previous question, this can be intrusive and make the person feel uncomfortable.
- "Can you still...?" Questions that focus on limitations or abilities can be demeaning.
- "Do you have a boyfriend/girlfriend?" This question is inappropriate to ask anyone, but it can be particularly hurtful to someone with a disability, as it reinforces stereotypes and assumptions.
Questions About Their Personal Life
- "What's your diagnosis?" Unless the person has shared this information with you, it's inappropriate to ask.
- "Do you use drugs?" This is a personal question that should not be asked of anyone, regardless of their disability.
- "Do you have kids?" This is another personal question that should not be asked unless you know the person well.
- "How do you manage your daily life?" This question can be intrusive and make the person feel like they are being judged or pitied.
Questions About Their Future
- "Will you ever walk again?" This question is insensitive and can be discouraging.
- "Will you ever have children?" This question is inappropriate and can be hurtful.
- "How long do you think you'll live?" This question is insensitive and can be upsetting.
General Tips
- Focus on the person, not the disability. Treat them with respect and dignity.
- Use inclusive language. Avoid using terms like "handicapped" or "crippled."
- Don't make assumptions. Everyone is different, and you should avoid making generalizations about disabled people.
By following these guidelines, you can ensure that you are interacting with disabled people in a respectful and appropriate way.
